Our 4 year anniversary!

                                                                                                                                                                                                      
                                 FOUR  YEARS STRONG!



          On February 17th 2014 me and the love of my life celebrated our four year anniversary. Some people have favorite holidays like Halloween or Christmas.  Some people have favorite days like their birthday. Well February 17th is my very favorite day out of the whole year! We get so busy with everyday life between work, work, and even more work we hardly get any time together. But on  February 17th we get to slow down and truly get back to us. We get the day to just be together and in love. It is all so magical even after 4 years. We celebrated with dinner and a movie. My favorite part was coming home after an amazing dinner, slipping into our comfy clothes, and then slow dancing to our favorite tunes as we sipped bottle of our favorite wine. When you are celebrating an anniversary whether 1 year or 50 years it isn't about how you celebrate it but who you are celebrating it with.


                                                                                                                       XOXO

Relationship VS Infidelity

                                
                                                    RELATIONSHIP VS INFIDELITY



          Infidelity is a growing issue in today's relationship! I have gone around and asked a few people have they ever been cheated on. A lot of people admitted they ether cheated or have been cheated on in one way or another. I have also been cheated on many time in my past relationships. I got to thinking about a few things. 1) Why do people cheat? and 2) Why do we put up infidelity?.


                            


            So why do we cheat? Now we all know it isn't all on the fellas. Ladies do cheat to. But it's not what sex cheats but why. I have never cheated personally but I know people who have cheated in a relationship. I asked those who have cheated what lead them to cheat and if the regrets it after. I always got pretty much the same answer. It was a rush. It was an escape. It's the rush of getting away with something and the escape from their problems in life. Most of the time people don't go out looking to cheat. That get lost in a moment. They have so much going on in their relationship that they just want to forget just for a moment. Most of the time people aren't in love with the person they are cheating with. They just use that person for the escape. Now I'm not saying cheating is right by any means! It is very wrong! What I am saying is sometimes people don't cheat to cheat. They don't go out to deliberately go out to hurt the one they love.

                      


          I know how much being cheated on can hurt and change you. I was in a very mentally and physically abusive relationship before I met my husband. It was on and off for a little over a  year. He cheated on me in every way imaginable. He cheated with someone at a party right in front of my face. He was the guy who went out looking to cheat. I was so hurt and scared that when I found such and amazing man I didn't know how to handle it. I didn't understand why he loved me so much, why he treated me so nice, and why he wanted me. When I met my husband my confidence was beyond damaged. I thought I didn't deserve better or for someone to love me. So I got to thinking why do people deal with cheating? Why do we keep taking the bad guy back? We keep going back because we except the love we think we deserve. We think it is our fault. We say sorry and beg for them not to leave us. We think we deserve the bull shit they put us through because that is the mind games they play with us. Nothing hurts worse then seeing another woman in your bed with the man you think you love. Cheating hurts. Just remember time heals all wounds but it doesn't erases the scares.


                   


          My advice for the cheaters is if you are at the point where you thing you are going to cheat then just leave. You'll just end up hurting yourself and your partner. If your relationship is so bad that you feel like you mite cheat for an escape then there is no saving that relationship. It is already to far gone. My advice those who have been cheated on is don't let a bad relationship define you as a person. Don't fall for the mind games. If they go out looking for cheating you can't change them. They are just going to keep hurting you. I know that time doesn't erase the scares but that doesn't mean you can't learn from them. You are worth so much more! You are worth being loved and being loyal to! You are beautiful! Keep loving!

Relationships VS Dating

                                 
                                                      RELATIONSHIPS VS DATING



           Dating is very vital to a healthy long lasting relationship. Dating keeps the romance alive in a relationship. Dating is taking time out of your busy every day lives to be together. There are many different forms of dating. There are romantic dinner dates, movie dates, lunch dates, staying in dates, and mini dates.

                   

          Romantic dinner dates are great for special occasions like anniversaries and birthdays. Romantic dinner dates can be kind of expensive depending on where you go. Here are a few places that we go to dine that does break the bank. Outback, T.G.I. Fridays, Applebee's, and Bella Rosa! These are great places for a romantic night out with great food and won't kill your wallet.  My hubby tops of a romantic dinner with a romantic walk or dancing to all our favorite songs.

                  


       
          Me and the hubby are big movie buffs! So I love going to the movies! Don't limit your movie dates to just the theaters! Try drive in movies and movies in the park for a cool new twist on an old date night idea. Movie dates are great because they are casual and most of the time last minute. They are also great for first dates. You can learn a lot about a person by what kind of movies they like.


                                    


          Lunch dates are a great way to make time for each other during a busy week. If you know you are going to be at the office late then plan a lunch date. Lunch dates don't have to be fancy just as long as you get some time together. It will also help take your mind off of a busy demanding week. Throw in a lunch date here and there during the week so your week won't drag on.


                           


          Staying in dates are the best! Sometimes the most romantic thing is to put on your comfy pjs, cuddle up on the couch with a cozy blanket, order food, and binge netflicks!  This is great for home bodies! If yo have a show you have been dying to see cuddle up and watch episodes all weekend or have a movie marathon! This is great because you can be the most comfortable at home and it cost next to nothing! Or make a home made meal together or if you are braves gentleman surprise your girl with a homemade romantic dinner. Trust me you will knock her off her feet.

               

         Stay in or go out it doesn't matter as long as you are taking time to be together. Life gets so busy that we let romance fall to the waste side. We don't mean to put love on the back burner but it happens. Just try! It doesn't have to be an every night thing. Do it when you need it the most. Go on a date when you really just need a break from the world and you just wanna be close to the one you love again. It is ok to steal a little time here and there for each other. You have to keep it romantic. You have to let those butterflies free in your stomach. Keep LOVING!

Relationship VS Money

                                                       RELATIONSHIP VS MONEY!

          It is said the love is all we need. While love is great it doesn't put food the the table and a roof over your head. When you are grown up money becomes very important in order to survive! We need money to enjoy our selves, pay the bills, pay for schooling, and pay for food. Money is a huge issue in relationship. In fact a lot of marriages end because of money issues. Some times couples don't agree on how they spend the money. Sometimes couples argue about how much money you spend or don't spend. Sometimes not having enough money can stress out a relationship.Here is a few tips on how to deal with finances in a relationship.


                   

        You may have a lot in common with your partner but the two of your aren't exactly they same. Your man mite want to buy a new truck but you want to save up money to buy a new house. You may not agree on everything and money is defiantly one issue you may not agree on! You may feel like you should have a joint account and your partner likes having separate accounts. You may feel like you should know how much money your partner makes and your partner may not want to share his bank amount with you. Not talking about money can be very frustrating. Sometimes your other half mite find something they really want to buy but you feel like it is way to much. This may cause tension in the bank and the relationship.


                                       


          Some people know the value of hard work and some people are born with a sliver spoon in their mouth. When these two people get into a relationship money will defiantly bring trouble. You know what hard work is so you save up your money. Your partner's money may burn a hole in their pockets! This is trouble! You can't spend and not save up for a rainy day. It is okay to treat yourself  once in a while but only if all the things that are need to be paid are. Your partner may want to go out all the time and you feel like staying in will save money. Your partner may not want to work and that puts all the pressure on you to pay the bills. Some girls believe a man should take then shopping, buy them everything they want, take them out every night, and to give them a weekly allowance. That doesn't pay the bills and that isn't very fair to the person who is working their butts off the get that money. If you want a man to pay for you then you may want to make an account on sugardaddy.com. A hardworking man just isn't for you



                              


          Living in today's world is very expensive! A lot of couples are living pay check to pay check these days. The more bills that come in means sometime you have to pick up extra shifts at your job or sometimes you'll even have to go out and find another job. You'll need one job to just pay the bill and another to put food on the table. Not to mention all the school and credit card debit you still have to pay off. It all just keeps adding up! Work all those jobs make you exhausted and leave you with no time for each other.

                  

          Your partner should love you for you not your money. If they thing you should do all the work and you take care of them then that's not a partnership. You're not their parent! In a relationship you need to take care of each other. A relationship is not one sided. I know money can be stressful  but it doesn't have to be an end to a relationship. First off you need to keep communication open about money. Talk about the bill, what you would like the buy, and what you need to cut down on. Talk about where the budget is at and where you want it to be. Try hard to help each other save up. Remember going out isn't a bad thing as long as other things are taken care of. Keep money positive and not a burden. Keep Living!Keep loving!




         

Relationships VS Having Babies

                
                                                 RELATIONSHIPS VS BABIES



          Having a baby is one of the biggest and most stressful event in life. Some pregnancy are planned and some come as a big surprise. Planned or not a baby and be a huge strain on a relationship. I don't know about ya'll but I have noticed more and more young people are family babies! It shocks me that almost everyone I graduated high school with is ether pregnant or already has multiple children. At lot more goes into having child then people realize. Babies take up a lot of money, time, attention, and energy.

                  


          Sometimes we make mistakes. Sometimes we fall in love and trust someone who doesn't deserve it. Sometimes we are blinded by love and end up with an unplanned pregnancy. You believed every lie that got you into bed but when you tell them the news you find yourself alone with a big belly and a big decision.  Now I do agree with using abortion as a plan b. The only season for an abortion is incest, rape, or a nice or dead situation. But if you find your self with no money, no help, no job, no man, or if your just don't feel like your are ready for this baby then adoption may be for you. Adoption is very hard! It isn't something you decide over night. But if you know you aren't ready to raise a baby then you should give your baby a chance in life and give yourself a chance at life. Their are two different types of adoption. Closed adoption and open adoption. With open adoption the adopted family with send you pictures and updates. Some open adoption families with even allow you to come and visit the baby. There are tons and tons of good, caring, nurturing, and loving families out there that would love a beautiful baby but they can't conceive. You can give them there greatest gift anyone could give someone. Sometimes when you find your self pregnant and alone a real man comes a long. A man who loves you, is willing to raise the baby as his own, who wants to be a family, and who understands that you and the baby our a package deal. If a man comes along like that then you are truly blessed. Those man are a dying breed.

                                      


          Babies cost money! A lot of money! A baby can cost anywhere between $1,500- $9,000 a year! Feeding cost $300-$3,000 a year! Diapers cost $500-$1,000 a year! Clothing costs  $200-$500 a year! A nursery costs $300-$2,500! Bathing costs $30-$70! Baby gear costs $200-$2,000! That does even count schooling, medical, or daycare. That is just for the baby that's not counting your other bills! So how much do you make?



              



          Planned or unplanned babies take up  a lot of attention, time, and energy. This can take a toll on any relationship. You don't get enough sleep so then you get cranky or fussy with each other. Because you have no energy your sex life takes a toll. There isn't enough time in the day to be romantic with each other or the send time with each other. This can cause fighting and frustration in a relationship. Your spark tends to flicker or maybe even die out. You can even become depressed and stressed out. A baby should bring happiness and joy! A baby is a bonding experience.



                 



          If your aren't ready for a baby then take the responsibility to use protection! Wrap it up fellas and ladies it isn't just a guys responsibility get yourself on some protection as well! If you are at a stable place in your relationship where you both agree on making a baby take into account what goes into having a baby. As your self. Do I have the time? Do we make enough money? Do you have a stable relationship? Do you have a stable house hold? If you just had a baby and it is taking a toll on your relationship date nights are very important! Grandma won't mind seeing her little darling while you and daddy go out for some you time. It is important to keep the love in your relationship going! Always make at least 15 minutes for each other everyday. If you do find your self alone and with an unplanned pregnancy adoption is always a good idea. It doesn't mean you are a bad person. I means you are thinking about someone other then your self. You are giving your baby a chance at life. For more pregnancy help call these hotlines:

American Pregnancy Helpline 866-942-6466
Adoption hotline Phone: 877-903-PLAN (7526)










           

Relationships VS Technology

                              
                                                     RELATIONSHIPS VS TECHNOLOGY


   
          Do you ever wonder how your grandparents made it work for so long? How did they make love last for forever? Well for one they had a totally different generation then we do. We totally had different relationship hurdles. All they knew what no matter what they had to make it work. If others before them could do it then no matter the hurdle that came along the could do it to. But for us splitting and devorse are the norm. No one stays together anymore. One of the biggest reasons a relationship goes south is TECHNOLOGY. This is a problem our grandparents never had to deal with. They had it simple.  They sent love letters instead of texts. We have to deal with texting, lack of attention, social media, and gaming. All those things can me great if you deal with these issues the right way. Here is how to deal with technology is a relationship.


                              


          We tend to become zombies when it comes to technology. So sometimes without even noticing we start to neglect each other and our relationships. Lack of attention happens a lot in relationships. Your other have can always be on the devices and they can get very lonely. It can cause fights and even effect the bedroom. I think we have all been here I know I have. When me and my husband first started dating he would turn off his phone while we where together but we started living together he started using it more and more. So then I stated using my phone more and more to so him how it felt. Bad idea! Then we both became technology zombies. Conversations just stopped. So one day we decided we could use our phones when we where apart but as soon as he got home from work the phones had to go away. We started to enjoy each others time again. We cuddled more. We talked more . We went out more together. It was really nice to be face to face again instead of through technology.  



                           
                         



          I am a huge gamer girl. I love to play games with my husband but not every relationship is a gaming relationship. This happens a lot more with females then males. A lot of girls aren't huge gamers. Shocking I know! Shocking but true! Girls tend to get bored while their boyfriends plays video games. They wanna go out and video games aren't their cup of tea. They don't consider sitting and watch you kill cops in Gta 5 spending time together. They rather cuddle and watch a movie.Here is another example of lack of attention. Guys tend to get into the game and not their girls. They tend to not pay attention. This can cause fights because she feels like you are more into the game and not your relationship.Girls tend to feel like they should come before a game. They feel like they should be more important then that checkpoint.


               


          With so many different forms of social media we get so many different forms of issues. For some reason people want to put their personal lives out their to the world. Younger people these day find that romance means more through social media. For example if you don't post all over your face and my wall how much you love me then its not real! If you don't have that we are in a relationship on Facebook then we aren't serious. Then comes the green eyed monster named jealousy.  Even if you have the most faithful man in the world it only takes one bitty to like his picture or status and its war! He is a cheater! He is a dog! He is a player! I even know a girl who divorced her husband because his cousin said I love you on his status. If he has a lot of female friends or if she has a lot of guy friends on twitter, Facebook, or instagram then that causes a lot more issues.



                   


                  Technology can be is a great think. Let it be a great thing. Technology isn't worth ending a relationships over or fighting over. Love and be real with out it being plastered all over social media. I love you comes from the heart not your key bord. If you feel like your man is playing games to much...PICK UP A CONTROLLER AND JOIN HIM! Guys love it and you mite be surprised at how much you enjoy it yourself. It is a great way to have fun and spend time with each other. Take my advice and on a rainy day settle in with some take out and GTA 5! You need family time. When you are together turn of the phones and talk. Leave the phones in the car while you are out to dinner. Enjoy each other face to face. It's nice when its simple. Simple works. Keep living. Keep loving.

                                                                                                           XOXO WIZZY

Relationship vs Career

                                                 
                                                             RELATIONSHIPS VS CAREERS!



          Sometimes in life you have to make really hard decisions. Sometimes cupid and destiny send you on two different paths. Sometimes you come to a fork in the road and you have to decide what way to go. Sometimes one of those forks are love or career. You can ether go down the love road or the career mode. Sometimes your dreams collide and don't really mix well together. But why choice between love and career? Why not combine the two roads ahead of you? Why not have the best of both worlds? Why not have your and eat in to? I know this can be easier asked then answered.


                                 


          Say you meet this amazing woman or man and they are the one! They are the soul mate that you dreamed of and the one you will buy a dream home with, marry, have babies, and grow old together. Say you meet each other in collage then you graduate. You find your dream job! It is a great job with super nice benefits but for some season your partner doesn't like it. They don't agree on what you wanna do with your life. Maybe your job requires you working long hours or being out of town a lot. Your partner feels like you won't spend anytime together or will have enough time to build a family together. Sometimes our loved ones have different dreams for us then we have for ourselves. The subject of careers can gets pretty frustrating. You love your job but your partner doesn't this can cause conflict. Conflict causes you guys to fights. There you are at that fork in the road. Do you go the path of love or the path of career. It won't be easy but you decide to go for the job of your dreams. Your partner really loves you so he or she sticks with you but it isn't easy on them or on you. Your relationship isn't going so well but at work you are the star! You work hard and you get a promotion! You think this is great! I'll make more money so now I won't have to work as much. Now I can spend more time with the man/woman of my dreams. We can finally start to settle down!. Then BOOM! You find out due to this promotion you have move. The move isn't close so you will have to uplift your family and move closer to work. Your partner is so excited and proud of you but doesn't want to leave  the dream home that you built together. There is that fork in the road again. Which way this time? Stay in your dream home and don't take the promotion or Go for the promotion and may lose your true love? Look over your relationship. He/she is an amazing person who has supported you and believed in you. You are still madly in love with him/her and still want to take the promotion. What path will you take?



                          



          Here is another fork in the road situation. Love is the workplace! A lot of workplaces do not aloud coworkers to have a relationship or relations. You have a great job with great pay. Everything is going great when your boss asks you to show the new guy around the office and to train him. He isn't what you expected. He is very handsome and charming. As you show him around the office you both hit it off. When the work ends he asks you if you would like to grab a drink. It isn't a date and you guys are just potential friends so you say yes to drinks. You both have a great evening and you find out that you both have a lot in common with each other. You both share a cab and he even walks you up to your door. Before saying good night he asks if you would like to go out to dinner on Saturday night. Like on a date. You had such an amazing evening and you really like this guy but you know that you could get in trouble with work. This is a fork in the road. Do you go out to a nice dinner with this really charming and nice guy and maybe get in trouble at work or Do you decline the date and not take the chance of getting in work? You say yes to the date because it is only one date, nothing serious, and you really enjoy your time with him. The date goes amazing and you feel your self falling for this guy. You starting dating and it ends up in a serious relationship. You have kept it hush hush but then he proposes and of course you say yes! Getting married means you can no longer keep it a secret from your work. So here is the fork in the road again! Your workplace does not allow coworkers having any type of relationship. So you have to decide what path to take marriage or your job?




            



          Some people know exactly what they want to do in life then their are others who have no clue what they want to do. Sometime you get into a relationship where your partner knows exactly what they want to do and you are just all over the place. Sometimes there are so many jobs that sound so good to you that you can't choice what you want to do. This can be very frustrating in a relationship because your partner may not understand your problem. They know exactly what they want so they don't understand why you can't just pick a job type. They mite want  you to be a teacher and you want to be a nurse. In their eyes it is about what pays the bills not what make you happy.



               


         In life there are many cross roads you will come across. There is no way around it. There are hard choices that sometimes you just have to make!  My advice is always follow your heart. Do what you know is going to make you happy. If it comes down to a promotion or your relationship say to your self what is best for me. If your partner isn't willing to move for your promotion look over your relationship. Is this relationship less or more important then your career? Are you happy in your relationship? Is this someone you can't live with out? Is there any promotion opportunities  where you don't have to wake a move? Can you work from home? There will always be ways to move up in your career where you won't have to make a move. I will never understand this but if your workplace does not allow coworkers to have relationships remember you can always find another great job but you only have one true soul mate. Keeping living! Keep loving!

                                                                                                      XOXO WIZZY