Relationship VS Family

  

   Family is very important. No family is the is the same. You may have a family with two dads or two moms.

You may have a family with 20 brothers or sisters or you may be a single child. You may have a big family or you may have a small family. You may be a single mom or dad. You may be like batman and not have any parents at all! You may have a wealthy family or you may be living pay check to pay check. You may have a family with issues that fight a lot or you may have a family that never fights. For the good and the bad family is very important. No family is perfect by any means. Family can also be one of the most stressful things in a relationship.

                                                                               

   I was born into a big crazy family. I grew up in a Baltimore row home with 9 people and only one bath room! I lived with my two uncles, my aunt, my little brother, my grandmother, my grandfather, my mother, and our dogs. My mom was a single mother scene my father left when I was 5 years old. My parents where divorced when I was 10 and I haven't seen my father scene. Scene my mom worked three jobs she was gone a lot so it helped to have a big family to watch over me while she worked. In my house there was a lot of fighting because of all the different personalities in such a small place. There was so much fighting that I hated being home:(. Even though there where so many people living under one roof money was a huge stress growing up. Bills where always paid late and we even lost a few cars because we couldn't afford to keep them. I even almost dropped out of school because my family couldn't afford my tuition. I even skipped a few meals because we didn't have enough food to feed everyone. As soon as I was able to work I took every job I could get to help out and get myself to graduation. No matter how much we fought when tough times rolled around like the death of my grandfather we pulled each other through. 

                                             

                                                                                   

     

    My husband Charlie's family was very different from my own. He grew up in a big house in Hamdan Maryland with is father, mother, two older brothers, and their cats. Growing up was far from easy for him. His oldest brother William who has a disorder called assburgers (Don't laugh believe it or not it is a real disorder. It is one of the lesser forms of autism.) tried to kill him three different times. The last time Charlie almost didn't survive. When Charlie was 10 years old he was placed into foster care with his brothers for a year and a half. After foster care Charlie's dad and mom decided to separate. Charlie's dad and his brother john moved up to Pennsylvania with his now step mother. Charlie's mom worked a lot so that left him alone most of the time which sent him into a very dark depression and a downward spiral. 

      Then fate brought us together! We really brought both our broken families back together. When we first started dating I told my husband that he shouldn't take it out on his brother John for what his father did. So we started slowly going up his dad's to visit his brother. Charlie talked things over with his dad and they worked through there issues. Now we spend almost every weekend up his dads. I have grown very close to my brother in law and my father in law. We where even both in his father's wedding. My little brother Dominic who is 10 years younger then me is very close to my husband and my brother in law John. They all love having their bro time together. I'm so happy they are all as close as they are. Charlie really gives Dominic a good roll model to look up too. We all don't get along all the time. We all have are fussy times. We lived with my family when we first started dating before we moved into our house. My family didn't always see eye to eye with our relationship because they saw it as we where always playing video games but they didn't see us behind close doors where we cuddle and love each other. My family caused a lot of stress early on in my relationship but instead of giving up we worked through it and it made us much stronger as a couple. Once we moved into our own place and had our own space our relationships with my family got alot better! Now when they feel like fussing we can just leave and go to home sweet home.

  My advice is that God gave you your family for a reason so try and find that reason! I know it hard at time but when your parents start to fuss at you about your relationship or just about life just listen to what they have to say they may have some point to what they are saying. Its hard to believe but parents date too so they have probably been there and done that so listen to their advice you might learn a thing or two. If you think they are wrong about your relationship don't yell at them show them! Show them that you do have a good relationship and your partner is a good person. Show your family that you are good for each other. Show them you respect and love each other equally. Show them what you have is healthy not something bad for you. Show them that you are listening to what they are saying and taking their advice. Don't let your family's issues affect your relationship. Talk the problems through with your partner. Remember you and your partner are a new little family just starting out so don't let your family influence your decisions as a little family. Remember seeing is believing.


Keep loving. Keep living.

                      xoxoxo wizzy