RELATIONSHIPS VS SOCIAL MEDIA
In today's world relationships a billion time more complicated! Social media can bring drama and issues into the best of relationships. Social media pages like Facebook and twitter can become a war zone during a relationship. I have had my own personal issues with social media so I know to stress the can add to a budding relationship. It is very sad but whenever miserable people see other people happy they like to try and break that happiness up every way they can. Here are a few signs and people to look out for in social media and some advice of to do social media right in a relationship!!
Social Media just makes life more complicated let alone your love life. It add unnecessary stress. For example some couples stress over the whole "in a relationship" status on Facebook. I have had a couple females tell me they are fighting with their man because he hasn't conformed they are in a relationship on Facebook. They always ask me for advice. I always ask if he is talking to any other girls or if there are any signs of him being unfaithful.. The answer is pretty much the same " No he is perfect and would never cheat. He has said we are in a relationship." Leave the poor guy alone because he is right! He loves you and isn't looking anywhere else. He just wants to keep his business his business. You should feel special that he wants to keep your relationship all to himself. It also doesn't mean he is ashamed of you or isn't proud to have you as his girl. If it really is that important to you then put all about your relationship on your Facebook. The less social media knows about your relationship the better.
Social Media can bring out the jealous side in anyone. Social media can really bring insecurities into a relationship. If you are a jealous and insecure person 1) maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship. and 2) Stay away from Facebook and twitter. It will drive you crazy. You will start picking fight over who your partner talks to and who is on their friends list. You probably already have issues in the relationship don't add social media to those problems. When you have insecurity issues you will over analyze everything on your partners Facebook.
I don't know what it is but males and females tend to come out of the wood work when they see someone is in a relationship. It is even worse when they see you are in a happy relationship! I had this problem a lot! My hubby is a charming and handsome fellas but he would never be unfaithful to me. That doesn't mean females didn't try their hardest to break us up. Girls ( I refuse to call them women) would constantly message my hubby. They would do and say anything to get attention and make him feel sorry for them. He has a huge heart and wants to see the good in everyone. A lot of the time that is his biggest down fall. He wouldn't say anything to these girls to lead them on and he would always tell them how much he loved me or how he would never leave me. Whenever he would try to stop talking to them and distance himself from them they would say they where going to hurt them selves or kill themselves. They only did that to make him feel sorry for them and give them attention. This put a lot of stress on our relationship in the beginning. It wasn't that I didn't trust him because he would always show me the messages and he never gave me a reason not to trust him. I didn't trust them! They would message me saying horrible thing. They would call me names and threaten me to leave him. They would say he didn't want me and I made him miserable. One time one of these little girls took nudes of herself and scene my hubby wouldn't take them she put on her Facebook and tag him in them. After that he blocked them right away. We haven't had any problems like that scene.
Facebook is a playground for haters! You may not even know them but they will know everything about you and your relationship. The relationship Facebook haters are usually the friends of the ex or someone who want your boyfriend/girlfriend for themselves. You don't have to do anything to them but just being happy makes you their worse enemies. You can have the happiest and healthiest relationship in the world but the relationship haters can twist everything to make it look like your love is a battlefield. They can take everything you post or don't post and turn it all negative. The thing is they will pretend to really care and they will throw back handed comments here and there like " OMG! You guys are still together! I didn't know you guys where still going together." In hater translation "Omg! How are you guys still together? I really didn't think you guys would last this long."
BLOCK! BLOCK! BLOCK! UNFRIEND! UNFRIEND! UNFRIEND! I see so many relationships that have tons of potential go bad because of social media! My advice is very simple ladies and gents....KEEP YOUR BUSINESS YOUR BUSINESS! If you see drama coming your way don't hesitate to block or unfriend those who want to cause trouble. Facebook is great is it used the right way. First you have to remove all the unnecessary drama and only post positive stuff about your relationship. Pictures are great and cute wall post are great. Never bring any outside problems like jealousy and insecurity into social media. If there are ladies/men who are getting too friendly with your man/woman talk it over with your partner and block them right away! Their only goal is to take away your happiness do not let them. My advice for the haters are unfriend them. I don't say block because you know they are going to snoop on your page! Let them snoop away and see how well life is going for you and your relationship! If you are one of those girls or haters who try to mess up a relationship SHAME ON YOU! My advice to you is let people be happy! If you want to cause pain to someone else you need to work on your own issues. Attention from social media doesn't make you more beautiful or a better person it just makes you easy to please. Laides and gents don't let Facebook, twitter, or even instagram ruin something good that can even be great. My best advice is to stay off of social media all together. Keep living. keep loving.
XOXO WIZZY
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