Relationships VS Fighting

                     

                     RELATIONSHIPS VS FIGHTING

          In relationships sooner or late you are going to fight about something. That doesn't mean your relationship is going bad. Fighting is actually health for a relationship....if you fight fair. Their are rules to fighting fair. Rule #1 Never go to bed angry. Rule #2 No social media. Rule #3 Don't involve others. Rule #4 No low blows. Rule #5 Walk away. It's time to ask your self are you fighting fair?

                   

                    RULES #1 NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY



          The best lesson my grandparents every taught me was no matter how bad the fight you never go to bed angry. This lesson is an important one because you never know what could happen. Say I love you every night before bed because you may never get a chance to say it again. Think about how bad you would feel if you get into a fight about something stupid and silly then your loved one doesn't wake up the next morning. That is something you will regret forever. No matter how long it takes stay awake till you hit your breaking point and resolve whatever you are fighting about. When you go to bed with out resolving the fight you won't get a very well rested night of sleep. You'll just keep going over it again and again in your head then the more you analyze the fight the more worked up you'll get. You'll toss and turn and you'll be all tensed up. Wouldn't it be better to slowly drift off to sleep cuddling with the one you love then laying in bed restless with your backs to each other?


              
                               RULE #2 NO SOCIAL MEDIA

        I seem to see this problem every time I look through my new feed. I see couples all the time posting about the fights and negative statuses about each other. That is just silly to me. Why does everyone need to know about you and your partner's disagreements? That is personal and it should stay  in the walls of the relationship not the walls of your Facebook. If you have a problem say it to your partner don't post it all over social media. By posting about a fight you are just adding to the fight not mending it. You are just make a mountain out of a moll hill. No everything has to be so out in the open.




                            
                 RULE # 3 DON'T INVOLVE OTHERS


          Rule #2 and rule #3 go hand and hand! When fighting do not involve other parties. Do not go dragging family and friends into the fight because you may get over the fight but scene you brought other's in on the fight they will now have different options of your relationship and your partner. Never gossip about your fights with family and friends. If you are a social butterfly follow rule #2 and stay away from social media. Once you post something then everyone chimes in with their unwanted opinion then you start having a comment war! When you bring other people into a fight that puts them in the middle of a rock and a hard place. They'll feel like they have to choose sides then they'll still be mad at your partner because you made they look bad in their eyes. Again keep the fight between you and your partner.




RULE #4 NO LOW BLOWS



          No Low Blows! When fighting keep it classy. Don't talk trashy! Don't call each other names. Don't belittle each other. Don't pick on each other. Don't bully each other. Don't break each other down. Don't say anything that you will regret later. Words can really cut deep. Just because you disagree doesn't mean you have to be hurtful toward each other. Remember even though you are fighting you really deep down love this person. Saying negative things like " You don't please me in bed because you have a baby dick!" or " You really let your self go! You are such a fat ass!". Refrain from using profanity  like bitch, whore, asshole, slut, bastard, etc. Low blows are the steroids of a fight! They just build and pump thing up!



     
                           RULE #5 WALK AWAY!!!



          Sometimes fights can get pretty heated. The last thing you should ever do is put your hands on each other. There is no reason to get physical....EVER!!! When things are getting to the point where you feel like they are getting to heated up WALK AWAY! If you feel like the fight is getting to the point where your partner or your self may become violent then WALK AWAY! WALK AWAY, GO INTO ANOTHER ROOM, LOCK THE DOOR, TAKE THE TIME TO THINK, AND COOL DOWN! Once you both have relaxed go back again and try to calmly talk through your issues. When you are fight their is no reason the raise your voice or your hand.



                      



          My advice for fighting fair is simple talk it through as soon as you feel their is something to talk about. Don't have a problem and hold it in. If you just hold up your feeling the you are eventually going to explode into a huge unnecessary fight. A fight is just a disagreement. A disagreement can be solved but calmly talking about the problem. Keep your relationship off social media! Keep it in the relationship don't add other parties. Always say I LOVE YOU before bed. It doesn't make you weak if you walk away. If you can't say nothing nice then don't say anything at all. No couple is perfect! We all fight. We fight because we are all different. We are humans. Humans are passionate beings. You won't always agree but that doesn't mean you can't have a successful, happy, and healthy relationship. Just follow these rules all you'll be fighting fair! Keep living! Keep loving!

                                                                                                     XOXO WIZZY