RELATIONSHIP VS INFIDELITY
Infidelity is a growing issue in today's relationship! I have gone around and asked a few people have they ever been cheated on. A lot of people admitted they ether cheated or have been cheated on in one way or another. I have also been cheated on many time in my past relationships. I got to thinking about a few things. 1) Why do people cheat? and 2) Why do we put up infidelity?.
So why do we cheat? Now we all know it isn't all on the fellas. Ladies do cheat to. But it's not what sex cheats but why. I have never cheated personally but I know people who have cheated in a relationship. I asked those who have cheated what lead them to cheat and if the regrets it after. I always got pretty much the same answer. It was a rush. It was an escape. It's the rush of getting away with something and the escape from their problems in life. Most of the time people don't go out looking to cheat. That get lost in a moment. They have so much going on in their relationship that they just want to forget just for a moment. Most of the time people aren't in love with the person they are cheating with. They just use that person for the escape. Now I'm not saying cheating is right by any means! It is very wrong! What I am saying is sometimes people don't cheat to cheat. They don't go out to deliberately go out to hurt the one they love.
I know how much being cheated on can hurt and change you. I was in a very mentally and physically abusive relationship before I met my husband. It was on and off for a little over a year. He cheated on me in every way imaginable. He cheated with someone at a party right in front of my face. He was the guy who went out looking to cheat. I was so hurt and scared that when I found such and amazing man I didn't know how to handle it. I didn't understand why he loved me so much, why he treated me so nice, and why he wanted me. When I met my husband my confidence was beyond damaged. I thought I didn't deserve better or for someone to love me. So I got to thinking why do people deal with cheating? Why do we keep taking the bad guy back? We keep going back because we except the love we think we deserve. We think it is our fault. We say sorry and beg for them not to leave us. We think we deserve the bull shit they put us through because that is the mind games they play with us. Nothing hurts worse then seeing another woman in your bed with the man you think you love. Cheating hurts. Just remember time heals all wounds but it doesn't erases the scares.
My advice for the cheaters is if you are at the point where you thing you are going to cheat then just leave. You'll just end up hurting yourself and your partner. If your relationship is so bad that you feel like you mite cheat for an escape then there is no saving that relationship. It is already to far gone. My advice those who have been cheated on is don't let a bad relationship define you as a person. Don't fall for the mind games. If they go out looking for cheating you can't change them. They are just going to keep hurting you. I know that time doesn't erase the scares but that doesn't mean you can't learn from them. You are worth so much more! You are worth being loved and being loyal to! You are beautiful! Keep loving!
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