RELATIONSHIPS VS TECHNOLOGY
Do you ever wonder how your grandparents made it work for so long? How did they make love last for forever? Well for one they had a totally different generation then we do. We totally had different relationship hurdles. All they knew what no matter what they had to make it work. If others before them could do it then no matter the hurdle that came along the could do it to. But for us splitting and devorse are the norm. No one stays together anymore. One of the biggest reasons a relationship goes south is TECHNOLOGY. This is a problem our grandparents never had to deal with. They had it simple. They sent love letters instead of texts. We have to deal with texting, lack of attention, social media, and gaming. All those things can me great if you deal with these issues the right way. Here is how to deal with technology is a relationship.
We tend to become zombies when it comes to technology. So sometimes without even noticing we start to neglect each other and our relationships. Lack of attention happens a lot in relationships. Your other have can always be on the devices and they can get very lonely. It can cause fights and even effect the bedroom. I think we have all been here I know I have. When me and my husband first started dating he would turn off his phone while we where together but we started living together he started using it more and more. So then I stated using my phone more and more to so him how it felt. Bad idea! Then we both became technology zombies. Conversations just stopped. So one day we decided we could use our phones when we where apart but as soon as he got home from work the phones had to go away. We started to enjoy each others time again. We cuddled more. We talked more . We went out more together. It was really nice to be face to face again instead of through technology.
I am a huge gamer girl. I love to play games with my husband but not every relationship is a gaming relationship. This happens a lot more with females then males. A lot of girls aren't huge gamers. Shocking I know! Shocking but true! Girls tend to get bored while their boyfriends plays video games. They wanna go out and video games aren't their cup of tea. They don't consider sitting and watch you kill cops in Gta 5 spending time together. They rather cuddle and watch a movie.Here is another example of lack of attention. Guys tend to get into the game and not their girls. They tend to not pay attention. This can cause fights because she feels like you are more into the game and not your relationship.Girls tend to feel like they should come before a game. They feel like they should be more important then that checkpoint.
With so many different forms of social media we get so many different forms of issues. For some reason people want to put their personal lives out their to the world. Younger people these day find that romance means more through social media. For example if you don't post all over your face and my wall how much you love me then its not real! If you don't have that we are in a relationship on Facebook then we aren't serious. Then comes the green eyed monster named jealousy. Even if you have the most faithful man in the world it only takes one bitty to like his picture or status and its war! He is a cheater! He is a dog! He is a player! I even know a girl who divorced her husband because his cousin said I love you on his status. If he has a lot of female friends or if she has a lot of guy friends on twitter, Facebook, or instagram then that causes a lot more issues.
Technology can be is a great think. Let it be a great thing. Technology isn't worth ending a relationships over or fighting over. Love and be real with out it being plastered all over social media. I love you comes from the heart not your key bord. If you feel like your man is playing games to much...PICK UP A CONTROLLER AND JOIN HIM! Guys love it and you mite be surprised at how much you enjoy it yourself. It is a great way to have fun and spend time with each other. Take my advice and on a rainy day settle in with some take out and GTA 5! You need family time. When you are together turn of the phones and talk. Leave the phones in the car while you are out to dinner. Enjoy each other face to face. It's nice when its simple. Simple works. Keep living. Keep loving.
XOXO WIZZY
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